Norma (far left) and participants of the Fulbright Teaching Excellence and Achievement program get silly

Winter 2022 | Edible Notables

Grandma Norma Style

Breaking barriers around the table with eggplant parm.

written by Heidi Bethel
photos by Rachel Gattuso

Norma McGee, known by many simply as Grandma Norma, was born in Alabama almost a century ago. Little did she know that at age 98, sheโ€™d still be making her eggplant Parmesan, a recipe that has gone global.

After retiring as the business manager for the Los Rios Community College in Sacramento in 1989, McGee concentrated on her passion for cooking. Her husband, Stewart, encouraged her effort, too.

โ€œMy love for cooking and hosting was developed over the years entertaining family and friends,โ€ she recalls. โ€œMy husband was a very social person and liked to have friends over. On Sundays, he would usually ask me if there was enough food to invite friends over, so I would always make extra.โ€

When she moved to Reno with her daughter and son-in-law, Nancy and Steve Casper, Normaโ€™s cooking for and hosting others went international, sort of. In 2002, she and her family began cooking for foreign visitors for a few years through programs sponsored by the Northern Nevada International Center and funded by the United States Department of State.

โ€œI loved to cook, host parties, and meet new people,โ€ McGee says, โ€œso it was a natural that I was asked to help out. And, as they say, the rest is history.โ€

Norma helps a participant from the 2019 Fulbright TEA program try his hand at dinner prep
Norma helps a participant from the 2019 Fulbright TEA program try his hand at dinner prep

Overcoming Differences
As guests from around the world who are smart, well-educated, and accomplished come to the table, these dinner experiences give the guests a โ€œtypicalโ€ American family experience. It also provides an opportunity to talk, break down barriers, and look past cultural assumptions.

โ€œSharing a meal is an ideal way to get to know someone,โ€ McGee says. โ€œWe embrace the knowledge that people from all over the world are more alike than different. Shared hopes and dreams overcome differences in nationality, politics, language, culture, and sometimes religion. Itโ€™s heartening to see national stereotypes, from both sides, fall away over a meal and a few hours.โ€

Miguel Cuni, Jr., a salsa music legend from Cuba, dances with Norma
Miguel Cuni, Jr., a salsa music legend from Cuba, dances with Norma

Stacy Kinion, associate director of international exchanges at Northern Nevada International Center, agrees.

โ€œItโ€™s hard to articulate just how far a familyโ€™s influence may extend, but I can say with certainty that Steve, Nancy, and Grandma Norma have offered companionship and friendship simply by breaking bread over the years,โ€ Kinion says. โ€œThere is so much to be gained when we open our doors and our hearts here and across the globe. They have no doubt been responsible for breaking many preconceived notions and extending goodwill that creates lifelong friends.โ€

Norma celebrated her 98th birthday in July
Norma celebrated her 98th birthday in July

Global Gastronomy
Guests always are amazed to learn that most of the meals have been prepared by Grandma Norma herself. Her go-to entrรฉe that appeals to the masses, eggplant Parmesan, is a dish sheโ€™s prepared ever since a good friend gave her the recipe in 1977. Itโ€™s commonly served and appreciated by all, even Steve, who wouldnโ€™t touch eggplant before he tried her version. The secret? Make it the day of the event and substitute tomato sauce with marinara thatโ€™s been mixed with chopped garlic and simmered for an hour.

โ€œMeat lover or vegetarian, the dish appeals to them all!โ€ McGee adds. โ€œMany visitors have asked for this recipe, so itโ€™s enjoying international acclaim even after itโ€™s appeared on our dining table.โ€

And word has certainly spread far and wide. To date, McGee has hosted more than 1,000 international visitors.

โ€œOur lives have been immeasurably changed and enhanced by participating in these visitor programs and opening our home to people from all over the world,โ€ she adds. โ€œWe recommend the experience highly to anyone who wants to travel the world without leaving their home!โ€

A lover of eggplant parm and dinner parties, freelance writer Heidi Bethel aspires to host guests with as much verve for it as the amazing Grandma Norma has.


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